Showing posts with label Diverse Divorce. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Diverse Divorce. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 8, 2026

Book-By-Book, Part 1


 Lately, I've been thinking a lot about my writing -- the books I've published and the ones I still hope to publish. Nothing dramatic or morbid -- just one of those contemplative periods that I hope will help me put things in perspective and establish new directions. 

One thing I'm terrible at is self-promotion. Aside from book launches, "getting the word out" is not my best thing and, based on the post below from 2009, this is not new. 

Stumbling across this particular post was a sort of synchronicity. Not only was it a bit nostalgic (and a reminder that some things don't seem to change much), but also because it gave me a great starting point for something I've been wanting to do: a book-by-book feature of my published works. So, to kick off this particular blog grouping, I give you my first two books. 

Because both of them were published by the same educational publisher (which has since been absorbed by another publisher), I decided to keep them lumped together as they were in the original post. Looking back on these books, I'm still proud of the work I did, and convinced that life is often, if not always, the best source of book material.

In December 2009, a good friend and colleague chided me -- gently, but with good reason -- about letting my published books wither on the vine. I had two books out at the time: Acting Assertively (published in 1999) and Diverse Divorce (published in 2004). Both were intended primarily for educators and copies sold mostly through the publisher's catalog. When the books first came out, I did the press releases and post cards but after a while, I was content to sit back and let them sell.

Or not.

Acting Assertively was the full-length victory lap. I'd been writing articles for a while, and was ready to make the leap and this book was the perfect bridge. The book grew out of classroom lessons I taught to my fourth and fifth graders and, though it was published in 1999, the principles are "evergreen" -- still sound for adults and kids alike. It was a great starting point because it provided an excellent model of an author (content)/editor (format) collaboration.

Diverse Divorce similarly arose from my work in schools, this time from a desire to create materials that could be used in the small groups I ran for children of divorce. The scenarios in the book represented a variety of family perspectives that adults could share with children to use as a discussion starter. The author/editor collaboration was less smooth on this one, which actually turned out to be a good thing; material that I'd originally intended for Diverse Divorce but that ended up on the cutting room floor, so to speak, sparked my first fiction projects.

Fortunately, my wake-up call from my friend arose from opportune circumstances: she had taken a seasonal job at Borders and had made it her personal quest to get my books into our local store. I was so grateful for her interest and persistence that it occurred to me only belatedly that perhaps I should have tried harder to champion my own work in the same way. It wasn't as though I hadn't made similar attempts, targeting mostly independent booksellers, but I'd had very limited success. Most of the time, I came away disappointed and disillusioned, and so I retreated into my safe little cave, putting book information on my website and adding copies to giveaway baskets and library collections. 

While no one wants be around an author who's always pushing the merchandise, it's still important to find ways to get the word out. Over time, new opportunities arise, and a wise author always keeps her eyes open.







Acting Assertively and Diverse Divorce are now out of print. Copies of both books and more information are available from the author. 

To get a taste of the kind of information in Acting Assertively, click here. For sample stories from Diverse Divorce, click here.







Monday, March 13, 2017

Snow Day Preparation

WGAL News 8 Storm Team via Facebook
The winter storm forecast being shouted from the rooftops in my area has left me with an eerie sense of calm. If the forecasts are right, the snow should start in plenty of time to make class cancellations a no-brainer, leaving me with the magic of a snow day.

Having spent most of my life in public education, I truly appreciate that magic. No alarm clocks. No lesson plans. A day to be spent in whatever pursuits appeal to me, guilt-free. (Clearly, I'm not the snow removal expert at my house).

These days, snow days are even better. Since my career in public education has been replaced by a teaching job at a private college, I'm no longer at the mercy of a school board schedule that makes me trade in my Easter vacation for my safety. If my classes are canceled tomorrow, I need to ramp up my teaching, but no one takes away those two prized days in April I've been looking forward to since President's Day.

But I digress...sort of.

Even before I was a semi-retired empty nester, a snow day was a writing day. I vividly remember sitting in my office, finishing edits for Diverse Divorce while my husband (the outdoor parent, in my sister's parlance) entertained my daughter. Those snow days (yes, plural) were perfectly timed, allowing me to meet a writing deadline while still working full time.
Diane's Little Free Library via Facebook

These days, snow days are one of the times that I know I made the right choice. Retiring was one of the most difficult decisions I ever made, one that came with financial, social and emotional ramifications that continue to resonate. Despite all of that, I love where I ended up, and snow days remind me of that.

So tomorrow, I plan to live the dream. My husband and I plan to follow the recommendation to stay home (although I can't speak for my daughter, currently spending spring break in Washington DC). We'll work from home, at our own pace, enjoying what all reports seem to agree will be a marshmallow world.

As long as the electricity stays on.





Monday, December 21, 2015

New on the Porch Swing: 5 Questions

Photo: Ashley Schweitzer via minimography.com
Sometimes, a confluence of factors inspires an idea. Last week, inspired by my friend Cerella Sechrist's Heartwarming blog, the generosity of the folks at ir-on-ic in downtown York and my own Christmas shopping dilemmas, I came up with the idea of once again featuring authors here on my blog. I've done this before, but it's been a while, and, like me, many of these friends have released new books since their last visit.

So today, I'm launching my 5 Questions feature. Between now and the end of the year, you can expect to see a few of these a week, and, if I still have author interest in January, you'll see them once a week. The faces and the titles will change, but the questions will be the same, giving you a chance to find out a little about the people behind the books.

That's my goal, in fact. Sure, I'll post book covers, but this feature is less about selling books and more about letting you get to know the people who write them.

Since being the author of the blog should come with some perks, I'm launching the feature with my answers to the five questions.

What have you written? I have four published books: two nonfiction and two novels. The nonfiction books (Acting Assertively and Diverse Divorce) both grew out of my teaching experiences. The novels (Casting the First Stone and Chasing a Second Chance) are connected by the same cast of characters, and, while I'll readily call Chasing a Second Chance the sequel to Casting the First Stone, I haven't yet decided if the Marita-Angel-Charli story is finished, or if it will continue.

What do you read? Since I started teaching at the college level, most of what I read is nonfiction, and connected to psychology in some way. I look forward to breaks when I have the opportunity to pick up a novel or two.

Why do you write? I have loved to write ever since Miss Lee introduced me to creative writing when I was in seventh grade. She was my first encourager.

Fun writing factoid (not technically a question, I know): The protagonist's best friend in the novel I'm getting ready to revise is reacting very badly to the fact that I need to change her name. Although she doesn't love the first name I gave her, she has, so far, refused to accept any other moniker. She's turning out to be even feistier than I thought she was.

One more thing: Authors are awesome. They're generous, talented, funny and a great support network for one another. That's why it's so fun to invite them to my blog.



My favorite Starbucks 
is allowing me to host 
a book celebration at their store on 
December 27 from 4 - 6 pm. 
Stop by if you can.